The world of women isn't just about you "learning to get good with women." It’s also becoming aware of all the ways that you subconsciously reject and say "no" to women.
When you see an attractive woman across the bar or on the street, who are you usually being? How do you feel inside and behave?
Your beingness at that very moment matters FAR more than what you say to her. Your subcommunication - your voice tone, your body language, the micro-expressions on your face and tiny nervous ticks - say everything to her.
It simply boils down to this...
...Whatever you are feeling in that moment, that nervousness, that anxiety or fear, that feeling that “you're not good enough” - is what she'll feel as you approach her.
But here is the key... there's nothing wrong with being nervous or anxious. The mistake you are most likely making is trying to hide these emotions.
Hiding what you are feeling only makes things worse, because your body will find a way to release that energy. This is why people have nervous ticks - your body is trying to find a release for all those emotions.
That’s part of what made one of my clients who'd previously studied "pickup" and worked with "pickup artist" coaches for 7 years incredibly awkward and robotic - he was trying to hide all his emotions by mimicking supposedly perfect body language and suppressing his nerves.
So next time you approach a woman, ask yourself: "What are some subtle things (twitches, movements, etc) that I do when I see an attractive woman?" This is hard to do in the beginning, but with practice you'll start noticing the little things that you do that are most likely pushing women away.
At The Fearless Man Live: